“Bean daddy“says he’s” deeply sorry “and wants to right the pain and frustration caused by his recent viral Twitter feed and past tweets.
John Roderick, podcast host and frontman of indie rock band The Long Winters, posted a nearly 1,000-word apology on his website Tuesday January 5, addressing the overwhelming reaction he received after telling his 9-year-old daughter a story about withholding food as she struggled to use a can opener.
In his apology, Roderick said he had been “ignorant” and “insensitive” to how he described the incident.
“My story about my daughter and the can of beans was poorly told. I didn’t explain how much we laughed, how we had a bowl of pistachios between us all day while we were working on the problem, or that we both had a full breakfast a few hours before, ” he explained. “Her mom was in the room with us all day and laughed at us and told us to shut up while she worked on her laptop. We all took turns on the puzzle.
“I presented the story with me as the asshole dad because he’s my comedic character and my fans and friends know it’s ‘a bit’,” he added.
“What I didn’t understand when posting this story is that a lot of the language I used reminded people very viscerally of the abuse they had suffered from a parent,” the comedian continued, adding how “the thought of me denying her food, forcing her to solve a riddle while she cried, or tying her to task for hours without a break, all were pictures of child abuse. children who affected many people very deeply. ”
“As I reread my story, I can see what I had done … Bean Dad, full of swagger and swagger, was hurting people,” admitted the podcast host, admitting he had “referred to a relative violent that many people recognized from real life.
After the 32 “Bean Dad” tweets thread Going viral over the weekend, users quickly unearthed old anti-Semitic and homophobic tweets from his account. In the apology, Roderick addressed his “lazy and damaging ideology”.
“Regarding the many racist, anti-Semitic, hurtful and abusive tweets from my early days on Twitter, I can only say this: all of these tweets were meant to be ironic, sarcastic. I thought then that being an ally meant taking the insults of the oppressors and turning them around to make fun of racism, sexism, homophobia and bigotry, ”he said. “I am humbled by my incredibly callous use of sexual assault language in the occasional joke. It was a lazy and damaging ideology, which I continued to believe far beyond the point where I should have known better that because I was a hipster intellectual from a diverse community, it was [okay] for me to joke and use insults in this context. It was not.”
“I’m a middle-aged, middle-class straight white male and I try to be aware of that and the responsibility that my privileges come with in everything I do. In this case, it is precisely my privilege of not living in an abusive family, of not being a member of a community that regularly suffers real trauma, that led me to misjudge the impact of the language that I chose.
Roderick also revealed that he will take time away from his public life to reflect and learn from the experience.